I think it is most logical to go to a professional if you encounter a problem in your relationship. Since we are not psychologists ourselves, and it is impossible that we can solve such complex problems ourselves. When my wife and I had a crisis, we made it easier for them to therapy for self esteem issues , as it is awesome that such texture therapy exists and that is why we were able to solve the problems. The psychologist has helped us a lot in our internal difficulties. It's a really cool text therapy, we can write to him 24/7. We were really happy together, because it helped us solve the crisis. I recommend that! I recommend it!